Comments on: Uncomfortable Compliments

By: Feryll

Feryll — Tue, 08 Feb 2011 20:26:54 +0000

Yeah, you can’t be in between two compliments.

“So, when are the babies someday?”

By: cuazy

cuazy — Tue, 22 Jun 2010 03:07:17 +0000

puto

By: CDthe

CDthe — Fri, 26 Jun 2009 20:39:16 +0000

Aye, same here. I’m married and niether me nor my husband ever wants children, so when people start going on about what cute kids we’d have our response is ‘urlllgggggg, noooo’

By: The L

The L — Fri, 26 Jun 2009 18:58:41 +0000

“We already were babies, so no, we’re not going to be cute babies some day. Oh, you meant the OTHER kind of “make some cute babies.” WTF is wrong with you?”

By: etherial

etherial — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 12:26:33 +0000

Yes. Compliments are nominative data.

By: RenaissanceGrrl

RenaissanceGrrl — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 08:51:56 +0000

While I’d be totally comfortable hearing any of the first four (especially as we’re engaged and there are save-the-dates out), the last one DOES make for an uncomfortable moment. Even if we did want kids, that’s rude–can you imagine if someone said that to someone who wanted kids and couldn’t have them?

By: RenaissanceGrrl

RenaissanceGrrl — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 08:49:49 +0000

Not necessarily. I’m getting married in four-ish months and while “when is the wedding?” would, of course, be perfectly logical, the babies comment would turn me red and leave me stammering–one of the reasons we’re together is that neither one of us wants kids, ever.

By: RenaissanceGrrl

RenaissanceGrrl — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 08:45:11 +0000

My fiancé and I get that ALL THE TIME. >_< Yeah I totally kiss my brother with tongue. What do I look like, Angelina Jolie?

By: fiona

fiona — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 01:37:18 +0000

should this be a bar graph?

By: OrionRed

OrionRed — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 01:07:41 +0000

Thanks for pointing those out!

At least the poster didn’t say “calvary” when they meant “cavalry.”

By: Starlinguk

Starlinguk — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 21:38:56 +0000

Ah yes, the uncomfortable compliment. When my son was still small and angelic (think blond curls and blue eyes), my mum said “It’s amazing that you two …”

Um, yeah.

Alas, my son is starting to look more and more like his dad now.

By: Waspala

Waspala — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 21:23:38 +0000

Two married people with blue hair?

Awesome.

By: Devylan

Devylan — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 19:53:24 +0000

By: Devylan

Devylan — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 19:51:33 +0000

Just because it’s possible does not make it any less creepy to some.

By: Elfking

Elfking — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 14:12:22 +0000

Er, I must ask, where exactly does it say (or so much as imply) that?

By: papajon

papajon — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 14:11:17 +0000

Yeah… me thinks the graph-maker has some serious commitment issues!

By: Mar.S

Mar.S — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 05:13:25 +0000

Spell it with me now: G-i-v-e-n. Given.

By: Mae

Mae — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 04:52:12 +0000

Ive had all said to me. Im not uncomfortable with any but I suppose thats because were very serious in our relationship and actually WANT children.

By: Mae

Mae — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 04:51:12 +0000

my ex husband and I had our former coworkers assume we were siblings because we both had blue hair…

blue.

seriously? Yeah…. Its genetic dumbass…. WTF.

By: The Object

The Object — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 04:31:56 +0000

Your right, I don’t always like to read the whole graph. I want the quick and easy laugh.

By: The Object

The Object — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 04:30:58 +0000

It is possible with modern science.

By: Greymoya

Greymoya — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 03:54:12 +0000

I knew a couple that got married that could have not only been siblings, they could have been TWINS. They looked so much alike, you could see people’s discomfort when they told them they were married, the assumption that they were brother and sister was so natural. Their son is going to look exactly like both of them, lol.

Luckily, they are also both amazingly gorgeous

By: Devylan

Devylan — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 00:32:56 +0000

Haha.

By: Devylan

Devylan — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 00:32:08 +0000

Lol. Good point.

By: Devylan

Devylan — Wed, 24 Jun 2009 00:30:33 +0000

Um, no. Does the graph even allude to the stupidity of men? I was simply referring to the fact that the x-axis wasn’t written properly; whether the ‘author’ is a man or a woman is irrellevant to my comment. So sorry, no, I don’t think that stereotype is good.

By: Dina

Dina — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 23:31:53 +0000

I’ve gotten that with my girlfriend… she’s half Chinese, I’m all Caucasian (well, mostly, but I look Caucasian). I think it’s because we’re both pretty girly looking and people get confused.

By: Dina

Dina — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 23:30:31 +0000

If the author is a lesbian, the last compliment has an ENTIRELY NEW LEVEL OF CREEPY.

By: Mkay

Mkay — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 20:45:45 +0000

Nice Things Said To Make Young People Cringe, for 500, Alex!

This is total win!

By: CW

CW — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 20:29:29 +0000

So people always call your girlfriend a guy?

By: Rob

Rob — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 20:09:18 +0000

so you’re worried about the stereotype that men don’t want babies, but are completely comfortable with the stereotype that men are stupid?

By: Burnsauce Johnson

Burnsauce Johnson — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 19:46:56 +0000

I’ve had 4 out of 5 of those

By: Snommelp

Snommelp — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 18:49:41 +0000

I’d be more uncomfortable with the “perfect pair” compliment than “cute together.” Being “cute together” is perfectly fine, but being a “perfect pair” or “made for each other” just adds extra pressure to live a fantasy relationship where nothing can go wrong.

By: Emily

Emily — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 18:27:13 +0000

When I went to have surgery, my ex (whom I was still friends with) went with me to keep an eye on me, since I don’t do well with anesthetics. While one of the nurses was pushing me out to my car (in a wheelchair), she commented that he and I would have movie-star children, appearance-wise. I kind of half-giggled, while he thanked her for the “compliment”. She wasn’t the first or the last to say it. It was equally as awkward every time.

By: Devylan

Devylan — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 18:25:55 +0000

I totally had a boyfriend in highschool who was mistaken for my brother on a few occasions. I don’t even have a brother.

By: Devylan

Devylan — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 18:24:46 +0000

Um, first of all the x-axis is titled, “Compliment Givin to my Girlfriend and I.” Despite the lack of spelling or grammatical skills, I think it’s safe to say that the ‘author’ was a male, unless of course the author is a lesbian.

Second of all, many guys I know, even the ones in commited relationships, are hesitant about seeing a future child as an exciting addition to said relationship. Take my husband, for instance. He told me from day one that he didn’t want to have kids. We now have a two-year-old son, and he’s still whole-heartedly against the idea of having another kid. I want a daughter, and after mentioning it several times in front of mixed company, he’s finally coming around to the idea of *adopting* a daughter *eventually*. We’ve been together for six years.

I do realize, however, that to assume the ‘author’ is a male is to also play into that stereotype of a man who is dead-set against having kids, but still, I don’t see how you can think the ‘author’ is a female.

By: cat.

cat. — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 18:07:12 +0000

givin? OH COME ON!

By: Alexandria

Alexandria — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 18:04:11 +0000

did you notice that he didn’t even include quantities for the levels of discomfort? (Not to mention the grammar and spelling mistakes with the info he did include. lol.)

By: TheObject

TheObject — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 18:03:31 +0000

I think that the graph author was female. I don’t see why a male would have a problem with any of these.

When I started reading this, the use of ‘guys’ made me think that it was uncomfortable because someone had mistaken two guy friends as a couple.

Now that is uncomfortable.

By: lolMiel

lolMiel — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 17:46:48 +0000

All of those compliments make me extremely uncomfortable because I know that if we ever break up, I’ll feel extra guilty. So yeah, don’t say that kind of thing to people.

By: june

june — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 17:42:16 +0000

“each other” is two words. Here it should be “someday”, not “some day”. Two of the x-axis items inexplicably do not have punctuation.

By: Randal L. Schwartz

Randal L. Schwartz — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 17:02:28 +0000

Compliments giv*e*n to my Girlfriend and *me*. Grammar *and* spelling failure.

By: Miyu

Miyu — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 16:49:35 +0000

Pfft. *THE* most uncomfortable comment is:

“You both look alike! Are you sibblings?” followed by faces ressembling

That kinda makes you do intensive research on your family background… just in case you’re both not related by some obscure family member…

By: James the Conquerer

James the Conquerer — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 16:22:13 +0000

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

*splodes*

By: Anon E. Mouse

Anon E. Mouse — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 16:17:28 +0000

Oh, please. Those babies will look gawd-awful. But, that’s genetics.

By: Johnnycomelately

Johnnycomelately — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 16:11:12 +0000

grammar alert overload… spelling alert overload…

By: Mariachi

Mariachi — Tue, 23 Jun 2009 16:01:54 +0000

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